Saturday, 17 May 2008


Having sent the children to school on Tuesday morning I took some rare time to myself to get ready for a hospital appointment.
Off I went, the day was going well, I managed to get a parking place at the hospital, I was early for my appointment and was taken straight away. I was glad that I was going to be back at work earlier than I had thought.
Driving back to the village, minding my own business, then I saw 4 teenagers out walking and just thought och they are on study leave and out for a walk. But no, as I got closer I looked at them and they looked at me and we both did a double take. I stopped the car, put on my hazard lights and rolled the window down to say to DD#2 what on earth was she playing at. For the 4 teens were not on study leave, but were DD#2 and her friend skiving school with their boyfriends. Well she ran away screaming and would not come home till late at night.
If I only could have had a picture of their faces when they realized it was me. I was the last person they would have expected to see coming along the road at the time as I would normally have been at work.
Now this is where choices come in,

1. Stay and face the music, take the grounding or whatever consequence was to be dished out and admit you were in the wrong.

2. Run away screaming, leaving your friend and the 2 boys standing not knowing what to do, then don't go home till after 9pm, cause a riot in the house by shouting and being cheeky, then storming out again till 10 pm.

I guess you can decide which option my daughter chose. It never ceases to amaze me how so many young people today are not able to admit they are in the wrong, it is always someone else who is at fault, or made them do it. I try really hard both at home and work to help the young people I work with understand that choices are important and we make so many in the course of a day, never mind our life that we really should stop and consider now and again if the choice we make is the best one for us.


Sylvie said...

I really don't envy you right now teenagers can be so difficult sometimes and even though I don't have kids (yet) I know, because I was a terrible teen. I eventually realised though and made a 180 turn.

Raquel said...

I am right there with you Sylvie, I was a horrible teen, but I changed when I was 20. Angela, so many times we want good things for our children, but I have found, that despite the consequences and problems, it is better to let them make their own decisions. I just try to set a good example, maybe they will come around someday. I feel for you. If there is anything I can do, please e-mail me. Raquel xo

Marie said...

Have you ever read the book by James Dobson Angela? It's called "Parenting isn't for Cowards." It's a really good resource. I think you are a wonderful mother. Some day your girls will appreciate that you cared enough to want to give them standards to follow and rules. (((hugs)))

Sue said...

Angela, my boys were a nightmare when they were in their teens, but they did grow up responsible adults after all my tears....
Just keep holding on as I did and I am sure your daughter will be someone you are proud of someday as my two boys are for me today.